Category: Personal Boundaries Blog

Growing up in an abusive home limited my ability to communicate effectively, regulate my emotions, create personal boundaries, and more. Learning how to open up, be vulnerable, and connect with others on a deeper level has been an ongoing journey.

For me, life is about learning and growing. Here, I like to share personal lessons I have learned about relationships, boundaries, and communication. I can only meet you where I am, but I hope my words help you beautifully.

Life is so short, and while we can not avoid pain, we have far more control than we allow ourselves to believe. I want to help others find their voice, whether that be through writing, speaking, or just learning how to set up their personal boundaries.

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She’s Done Pretending….

“Kids have a lot of energy; they act out in class, lie, and exaggerate tales. Trouble-making behavior is typical, or is it? This is what the police, schools, and other adults believed when they saw a young girl acting out and telling stories to her friends.

Why wouldn’t anyone listen to her?

As a child, Niki did not stand a chance against her abuser. He was intelligent, calculating, and manipulative. The isolation and anger threatened to consume her, leaving behind an empty shell.

She’s Done Pretending became more than one child’s experience of abuse; it is written permission for those who tire of being controlled by the abusers in our world. It is about persistence, resilience, and hope. Niki provokes a feeling of power behind standing up for yourself and taking your life back.”


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Just Do it!

I will not pretend I came up with the slogan Just do it. My generation has heard that tagline since Nike coined it in 1987 to inspire and motivate people to chase their dreams no matter how far out they seem. However, it recently sunk in. Some seeds take a long time to bloom. While […]

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Looking for a Great Book to Read? Look No Further!

"She's Done Pretending is a permission slip. It's a permission slip for readers to step out of their abuses, heartaches, and abandonments...and step into the light of a better life. Bergler's story, although difficult to read at times, shines a light on one woman's story of perseverance and triumph over unbelievable odds. She uses her story to show us, the readers, that there can be "life after internal death." Through graceful writing and a fiery spirit, Bergler inspires us to see that life is what you make of it." - Sarah Krosschell

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